When it comes to dating, we can be our own worst enemy—without even realizing it! Inundated with a plethora of love advice from countless sources, we occasionally internalize certain notions that not only impede our chances for happy relationships but are also, quite frankly, flat out wrong.
In conjunction with the launch of our new website, we’d like to help you launch toward a new level of possibility by highlighting some of the main dating myths we hear from those in several key demographics.
We'll start with myths successful career women hear since many of our clients fall into the single professional category.
- Myth #1: Men are intimidated by successful women.Successful women hear this one all the time—"You're probably still single because men are intimidated by you!" Please, this notion is so last millennium! Perhaps there was some truth to this myth in the 1960s and maybe even into the 1970s when prevailing gender norms still prescribed men as the breadwinners and women as housewives. But in the 21st century, this simply isn’t the case. If you’ve heard this nonsense, please dismiss it. Today's men were raised by "working moms" and most are completely comfortable with your achievements. That being said, if you're an accomplished woman and you happen to meet the rare man who actually is intimidated by your drive and verve, well you’ll know right away that he's obviously not the guy for you. Simple as that. And the sooner you figure that out, the better!
- Myth #2: Successful women need to date men who are equally as successful. Again, this notion harkens from previous generations and doesn't necessarily apply to this day and age. Of course, some successful women are drawn to high-powered men and if you fall into that category, then by all means find yourself a partner who’s equally driven and committed to his career. But plenty of couples thrive in a dynamic in which the woman "brings home the bacon" while the man focuses more heavily on the domestic routine. Sure, it’s currently still a bit unconventional, but it definitely can work as long as roles and expectations have been delineated and agreed upon.
- Myth #3: "I don’t have time to date." Yes, you’re beyond busy and yes, you're "married" to your career. But the reality is, if you have time to eat, you have time to date. And since you have to carve out time to eat, you absolutely can squeeze in a social life as well! The best way to do this—and we’re not just blowing our own horn here—is to join It's Just Lunch. Honestly, there’s no better "time saver" than to have us handle things. We select your match, coordinate schedules, and make the reservations. We then call you and provide you with all the details you'll need—who you'll be meeting, where to go, and what time to be there. All you have to do is show up and have a nice meal or a couple drinks. Truly—it's as simple as that.
As one of our former clients put it, "Like everyone else, I tried online dating and I don’t have any horror stories to report or anything like that. But it was such a time drain! I have a full life and I didn't want to spend hours every night scrolling through profile after profile. So I called It's Just Lunch and let the matchmakers do the work for me. It was the best decision I ever made. I met my husband through IJL and we’re about to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary! Not only did I save time but I met the love of my life—and he wasn't online dating by the way. So there's no way I would have met him if I hadn't hired It’s Just Lunch."
Hey successful women, become one of our success stories in 2016 and take your love life to a new level!
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